Single people are sad, lonely, and devoid of love is totally false notion, but sometimes being single is more fulfilling that being in a relationship.
There are certain people who have always had someone special by their sides. They are always in some or the other sort of relationship.
Sometimes, an individual is in a decade long relationship, and out of the blues, their significant another just gets engaged with someone else. The ultimate solution to such a heartbreaking disaster is a painful breakup. And then we have the tail of rebounds, flings, hookups, and what not. My point is, heartbreaks are difficult, and moving on is never as simple and steady as they show in the movies.
Bottom line, you may find yourself to be alone for quite some time.
Are you totally blank as to what to do now? Where to start?
You don’t have to panic. Relax: I know this is way easier said than done. But just be patient. Let this quote at least attempt to lighten up your broken heart a little.
“Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.”
So without having any further ado, let’s quickly enlist some important truths about being single:
You have all the time to be by yourself, with yourself
Finally, while you are single, you will have some “me” time. This is the time of self-reflection. During this period, you learn to accept things and start and letting go, which brings us to point number 2…
Never letting go of your past is equal to never appreciating the present
Of course, you will have some adorable memories about you beloved ex, but that’s the past now. You may cherish those memories forever, but you need to stop clinging to them for life. And you need to start planning for today and tomorrow. The great Buddha once said that every day you are born again. This means life is all about new experiences and adventures each day!
When you lose everything, you find what you miss
Surely, not all the years of your relationship would have been glorious. If you sit quietly and ponder, you will realize how much you have truly lost when you only circled your life around your love. You must have realized your loss even during your relationship. And no one can begin imagining how many tears you may have shed during those difficult times. Now you are single, you have opportunities waiting to do all the things that you missed out, while you were investing all your energy into your relationships. You need to believe in yourself to eventually conquer all the things you have lost. But right after the breakup, hold on, and take some time to enjoying and completing yourself.
Change can’t always be bad
Sometimes, it is just human nature to be fearful of change. Adaptation takes time, and you can feel free to think all the possibilities that are waiting for you. Meeting new people, going to new places, tackling new projects is just the beginning to your ended relationship. Sometimes change is the best thing that can ever happen to us. Change opens the gate for all the new activities and environments.
Not everyone who is single is afraid of love
Yes, your dear heart may have been bashed, bruised, broken, or even tortured. But there’s no reason for you to feel traumatized. Keep faith that you will fall in love again. Hopefully, your next partner may all but treasure and treat you with nothing but love and respect. Staying open to love doesn’t necessarily mean attracting a new relationship. This concept is also applicable to being open to life and its adventures.
You can still appreciate while being single
Being single is not the end of the world. There are so many other problems that are more depressing than being single, like hunger, homelessness, or even death, for instance. This statement may feel like a hard slap on your face. But it will also remind you that even with a broken heart, you are still standing. You are still breathing. There are still so many more possibilities waiting for you to nourish out there.
You can fully focus on yourself
Sometimes when you are in a relationship, you may become indolent about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable with your partner that your goals take a back seat. And consequently, when you’re single, you get the opportunity to look deep inside yourself and figure out the person you really want to be.
Every cloud has a silver lining
Believe it or not, everything in life is a process. When something dramatic and hits us, then with time, you will find the energy to face it and conquer it. Since you have just stepped into singlehood after such a long relationship, you will have so much to learn, understand, and explore. Sometimes, you will also be reminded how truly lucky and grateful for all that you have.
Now again, all this “preaching” is much easier said than practiced. So, let’s conclude your journey into singlehood with one important idea: Change comes from within. You alone have to decide if you want that change or cling to what you had.
“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” -John Allen Paulos