Failure is inevitable in life, but how to fight failure and meet challenges and use them to our advantage is what matters. Learn from the mistakes made.
How To Fight Failure
Highly successful people are the ones who have failed the most.As the public, we usually only learn about these individuals and their companies once they have made it big. We admire their success yet rarely witness the immense struggle they went through to get there. By not being exposed to their failures, we are unfortunately only left to compare ourselves to their achievements. Rather, we should work on our mistakes and deal with how to fight failure.
If we keep repeating it can bring in bad vibes in our lives. This, in turn, can make it hard for us to validate the mistakes we make and problems we experience. We often second-guess ourselves and question our abilities; not realizing that adversity is required in order to succeed.
This way of thinking has made the world afraid of failure. Even from a young age, we have been taught that being wrong and making mistakes are bad. Our mind itself uses painful memories of the past to provoke negative emotions like fear and anxiety to stop us from making those same errors today.
Life is never, always a comedy. At times, it is a tragedy.Life is experienced as a constant, never-ending shift between successes and failures—sometimes occurring within moments of one another. To be human is to fail. We know this to be true from personal experience.
We experience hardship both because of our faults and because of the faults of others. When we do experience difficulties in life, it is okay to get down on ourselves. It is okay to get upset and disappointed. Our goal, however, is to not stay down. We need to learn how to fight failure and get better.
Failure is a necessary part of life. We would be wise to allow it to change us and shape us. How then, can each of us redeem failure for good? Let’s remember few things:
1. We admit that we experience it.
Despite the universality of failure, our world goes to great lengths to hide it. People always have and people always will. Our default position too often is to downplay our weaknesses, but those who find growth in failure begin by simply admitting its existence in their lives.
2. We recognize failure is common.
And because we know all experience it, we find comfort knowing we are not alone in it.
3. We look for personal responsibility
Our initial tendency is often to blame others or uncontrollable, external factors. After all, to admit defeat is to admit defeat. But rarely are the failures in our lives entirely the responsibility of someone else. And until we take personal responsibility in some capacity, we can never move on to the next step.
4. We process our weakness
Socrates once said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” This holds true in both success and failure. When a failure occurs, which it always will, the wisest of us journey inward to determine the cause and intentional steps we can take to learn from the experience. And in time, we learn to champion humility.
5. We let go of the factors outside our control
One of the most hope-filled moments in life is when we find the courage to let go of what we cannot change.
6. We grow through pain
We live in a society passionately committed to avoiding pain. But there is a benefit to be found in discomfort. While I would never encourage anybody to intentionally seek pain through failure, it will arise. And when it does, it will be okay. In fact, it will teach us things we could never learn elsewhere: patience and perseverance for example.
7. We forgive
HOw to fight failure if it is not your fault? If our pain is partly a result of someone else’s failures, we find freedom in forgiveness.
8. We turn to others
Nobody successfully navigates life alone. When the hope inside us begins to fade, we look for it in others. We turn to family. If the family is not available, we turn to friends. And if friends are not available, we look for intentional communities around us to find support.
9. Be brutally honest
The most critical part of the process, which 90% of people don’t do, involves taking a couple of minutes to reflect on what happened and being brutally honest with ourselves on why it happened. It’s easy to turn on the TV, pull out the smartphone, or find some form of distraction. Most people will do anything to avoid confronting their own self with mistakes they’ve made.
However, if we don’t do this, we don’t learn, and if we don’t learn then we risk failing insanely. Albert Einstein famously said it was insane to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. If we don’t learn from our mistakes and failures in life, then we are doomed to keep repeating them, whether we realize it or not.
10. And then, we share our stories
It may not happen right away—some failures take longer to process than others. But eventually, we find the opportunity to share our story. When we do, we share it with honesty and humility. Through it, we discover an opportunity to provide hope, strength, and encouragement to others. We find influence for good. And we begin to make sense of our failings.
Failure is never the end. It is instead, a necessary part of the journey. May we keep hope alive. And find redemption through it.We can’t stop obstacles from appearing in life, but we can choose how to handle them. They may block our vision temporarily, but if we persevere then we can discover opportunities that have always been waiting for us on the other side. As we get more efficient with this process, we enable ourselves to see the positive side in even the toughest of situations.